I will be the first person to openly admit that bisexuals get a shit end of the stick when it comes to media portrayals. Especially when the writers and film makers seem to love making us be insane killers or just insane.
However, I get very uncomfortable when I hear gays and lesbians whining about bisexuals, because much of the time their main complaint boils down to them being unhappy that the bisexual winds up with an opposite sex partner.
Again, I can get it, media still has a mighty strong heteronormativity streak in it. There are many portrayals that end up with an opposite sexual partner, and some even make bisexuality a passing thing, sort of like college experimentation. I’m not debating any of that.
What I’m uncomfortable with is the underlying implication that the bisexual character winding up with an opposite sex partner is not good. I will be on board, full stop, with a bisexual character going for a healthy relationship. Regardless of the gender of the other person. But it’s getting really old to hear “Ew, she’s going to wind up with a man.”
Well, yes, that’s a good possibility. BECAUSE SHE’S BISEXUAL.
Say ew because they’re trying to put her with a shitty partner just to keep heteronormativity, say ew because they’re trying to put her with a shitty partner period and pass it off as normal and okay, and say ew because they made her or him a psychotic murderer.
But can we please stop saying “ew” over something that’s a natural part of bisexuality?
PS - The next person I catch saying “ew” about a bisexual or pansexual dating a T man or woman, am I going to straight up verbally curb stomp. That shit ain’t cool period, but it’s vile when it comes from our own LGBT community.